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- Make Sure You See ALL of Your Matches! Always remember
that the "New
Matches" and "Ongoing
Matches" tables on Your Activity Page only display five matches at a
time. Located directly below each table on the left side is a small
display that will tell you how many total matches you have. If
that number exceeds five you will also see a link to view the additional
matches.
- It Takes Time, and It's Worth the Wait. eHarmony is
unlike any other relationship service on the web. The process is
based on matching you with individuals that share your core values and
beliefs. It is complicated stuff and we take the job VERY seriously.
Finding a great mate requires our technology and your hard work. We expect
that it may take months of communicating with several matches before
you find the person with whom you share a magical chemistry. But we are
confident that if you are committed to doing that work, you will see
the fruits of your labor. To date, we have created 100,000 matches. That's
100,000 opportunities for a successful, loving relationship. With membership
growing and communication at an all-time high, we are looking forward
to creating that perfect match for you.
- You can reveal your photos:
- At the beginning with Match Detail
- After exchanging Multiple Choice Questions
- After exchanging Must Haves/Can't Stands
- Or, as it is now in Open Communication
- You can also share your photos on a Match-by-Match
basis.
- The FastTrack feature allows you and a match
to jointly decide that you're ready to jump to Open Communication,
AT ANY TIME. If you feel a special connection with
a particular match during your first round of communication (or 2nd,
3rd, or 4th rounds), click on FastTrack and we will ask the person
if they are ready to jump to Open Communication with you. If they say, "YES," then
you both proceed immediately to Open Communication where you can exchange
personalized messages within our anonymous email system. If they
aren't ready yet, you both continue in guided communication.
- If you have questions about eHarmony, you can
reach the FAQ by clicking on CONTACT US at the bottom of our
homepage. The Contact Us page
contains several ways to reach eHarmony, but the new FAQ should
give you the opportunity to get your answer immediately, without
waiting to receive an email response. The "Search
the Knowledge Base" function has been improved to pull up a wider range
of information to address your needs. By entering a term in this
box and clicking on "search" you will be presented with results that
rank each response according to how well it matches your search
term.
- Use the service for as long as you possibly can -
We know this sounds self-serving, but here is the simple fact.
eHarmony is focused on finding people who are RIGHT for you. If
they don't find a match they think is highly compatible, they
ask you to wait. That may mean that matches are slow to come. Whether
matches come quickly or slowly, your goal is to meet a wide range
of compatible people and get to know them well. You're searching
for a SOUL MATE! Past eHarmony couples bear out one fact: Taking
a long-term membership takes away the pressure and allows you to
accept the entire process in a very relaxed manner. It's the difference
between having a conversation while the clock is ticking, and taking
a leisurely stroll down a quiet beach. It's just easier to think
clearly when you know you've carved out a period of time and aren't
pressured.
- Let your personality shine through - Sometimes
women (and occasionally men) don't want to appear
too "forward." They
worry about appearing aggressive and pushing themselves on their
matches. DON'T WORRY. In many ways eHarmony is not the real world,
where being coy or playing hard to get may be a wise strategy.
You should always be upbeat, open, and the first
to extend yourself. There are three key ways to do this:
One: Post a photo. eHarmony matches you based on your
interior. You and your matches must determine if a shared chemistry
exists between you. Posting three or four well-taken photos is
a great way to show that you're serious about the process. It
also gives you an opportunity to share more of your personality.
Do you like to play music? How about a photo of you on stage?
Are you a devotee of the local sports team? Why not dress up
in their jersey and show us your game face? As long as you're
in the photo, we're happy to let your interests shine.
Two: The About Me page. It is impossible to overemphasize
the importance of this one page of information. It's where your
matches first meet you and start to discover who you are. If
you've had a few matches, you know people can make themselves
seem average and boring by answering these questions in an average
and boring way. But by spending a little time on your answers,
you can create tremendous interest. Go to your About Me page
and print it out. In a Word document, spend some time thinking
about your responses. When you've written them, paste them into
the eHarmony About Me page. The answer to the question "The one
thing Joe is most passionate about:" could be "football." Or
it could be "college
football. I've been a Georgia Bulldog fan my whole life, and
I bleed Red and Black. I went to college in Athens and walked
on as a kicker." The
second response gives the reader a glimpse into the personality
of the writer as well as a whole range of questions to ask later
especially if she doesn't know what "walking on" means.
Three: Communicate. When you get a match, send him
or her a message. When a match sends you a message, return the
favor. The ONLY WAY to meet people, hone your mate selection
skills, and eventually find the love of your life is to repeatedly
put yourself out there asking the questions, answering the e-mail,
and doing the work of getting to know your matches.
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